This author delves deeply into the psychology of relationships and codependency. As an experienced therapist for over 30 years, she guides individuals and couples in understanding and overcoming the complex dynamics that shape their connections. Her work focuses on uncovering the roots of shame and codependent patterns, offering practical pathways to discovering a freer, more authentic self. Through her writing, she empowers readers to cultivate healthier self-esteem and establish firm boundaries in their personal interactions.
Codependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from generation to generation. Lancer offers assistance in understanding the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics, and lays out a clear plan for recovery
A nationally recognized author and codependency expert examines the roots of shame and its connection with codependent relationships. Learn how to heal from their destructive hold by implementing eight steps that will empower the real you, and lead to healthier relationships. Shame: the torment you feel when you’re exposed, humiliated, or rejected; the feeling of not being good enough. It’s a deeply painful and universal emotion, yet is not frequently discussed. For some, shame lurks in the unconscious, undermining self-esteem, destroying confidence, and leading to codependency. These codependent relationships—where we overlook our own needs and desires as we try to care for, protect, or please another—often cover up abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors. Shame and codependency feed off one another, making us feel stuck, never able to let go, move on, and become the true self we were meant to be. In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents’ feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.