'The book that we all need' Esther Perel 'A road map for all of us who seek true intimacy' Gwyneth Paltrow 'A revolutionary guide to happy, thriving couplehood' Lori Gottlieb Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness-and there's also not much that's more important. At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counsellor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. In Us, Real shares his new science-backed skillset to transform your relationship into one that's based on compassion, collaboration and closeness. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of 'you' and 'me', or feel like you are living 'alone together', this book will show you the way back to 'us'.
Terrence Real Book order






- 2022
- 2007
The New Rules of Marriage
What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
Nationally bestselling author and distinguished therapist Terry Real shows women how they can have the intimate marriages they have always wanted with a step-by-step plan.
- 2003
How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women
- 304 pages
- 11 hours of reading
"What happened to the passion we started with? Why aren't we as close as we used to be?" PROBLEM: If you are a woman who is unfulfilled in your marriage...if you feel unheard or overburdened...if you quietly live in a state of slow-burn resentment... PROBLEM: If you are a man unhappy that your partner seems so unhappy with you...if you feel bewildered, unappreciated, or betrayed... This book offers a solution Bestselling author and nationally renowned therapist Terrence Real unearths the causes of communication blocks between men and women in this groundbreaking work. Relationships are in trouble; the demand for intimacy today must be met with new skills, and Real -- drawing on his pioneering work on male depression -- gives both men and women those skills, empowering women and connecting men, radically reversing the attitudes and emotional stumbling blocks of the patriarchal culture in which we were raised. Filled with powerful stories of the couples Real treats, no other relationship book is as straight talking or compelling in its innovative approach to healing wounds and reconnecting partners with a new strength and understanding.
- 1997
Overcoming the secret legacy of male depression.