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Whether arguing takes the form of whining, heel-dragging, or embarrassing tantrums, what's a beleaguered parent to do? Trusted family therapist and bestselling author Dr. Michael P. Nichols has an answer that might surprise you. Using the simple, easy-to-follow, yet remarkably effective approach he's developed over 30 years of working with parents and children, you can learn to put an end to arguments by refusing to argue back. It's called responsive listening, and it means separating decision making from hearing what your children have to say. In five clear-cut steps, Dr. Nichols shows how you can stick to your guns about extra ice cream, coed sleepovers, or skating without a helmet without shooting down the ideas and feelings behind the demands. With the techniques of responsive listening, you can stop arguments in their tracks, get kids to open up, and demonstrate that you value their point of view - without getting caught up in a power struggle. Testing the limits is a natural part of growing up - but patenting dosen't have to be a battle-ground. You can cut down on arguments with your kids and the damage they do. You can gain more authority as a parent and build your children's trust and respect at the same time. This indispensable book shows how.

We never outgrow our need to connect with others--to feel as though we are heard and understood. That is why a sympathetic ear is such a powerful force in human relationships -- and why the failure to be heard is so painful. Nothing hurts more that the sense that people close to us aren't really listening to what we have to say. Someone talks and someone else listens\m-\it sounds so simple that we take it for granted. But why do we often feel cut off when speaking to the people closest to us, family members, friends, or colleagues? What is it that keeps so many of us from really listening?Michael P. Nichols answers these questions and more in this ground-breaking exploration of why people don't hear one another. His book, an engaging guide to the secrets of listening and being listened to, is filled with vivid examples that clearly demonstrate easy-to-learn techniques for becoming a better listener. He also illustrates how empathic listening enables us to break through misunderstandings and conflict and to transform our personal and professional relationships.