Beverly Engel Books

Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. And while anyone can suffer from lingering shame, those who were abused in childhood tend to feel it the most. In It Wasn't Your Fault, a therapist presents a compassion-based therapeutic approach to help survivors of physical and sexual abuse overcome the debilitating shame that often keeps them tied to the past. By offering step-by-step techniques for understanding the root cause of shame, as well as exercises in mindfulness and compassion for the self and others, this book will help readers begin to heal and move past painful experiences.

The world-renowned therapist and author of the groundbreaking self-help classic, The Emotionally Abused Woman, delves into one of the most destructive and powerful weapons of the abuser: shame.

"Your partner's addiction takes a toll on both of your lives. That doesn't mean you should turn your back on the person you love. We've been told that staying with a partner who struggles with addiction-whether it be with drugs, alcohol, or addictive behaviors-means that we're enabling their destructive behavior. That wanting to help them means we're codependent, and that the best thing for both of us is to walk away from the relationship entirely. But is that true? How to Love an Addict challenges the idea that the best chance for recovery-for the addict and their partner-is to walk away. Instead, it makes the revolutionary claim that you, and the love you have for your partner, can be a key part of his or her journey to recovery. Together, addiction activist and bestselling author Christopher Kennedy Lawford and psychotherapist Beverly Engel, MFT, take a fresh look at addiction and codependency-the latest research on what causes them and what the two have in common. Rather than treat addiction or codependency as disease or weakness, How to Love an Addict honors the trauma and shame that often lie at their source and shows you how to use your love to combat that shame, allowing you to more effectively support your partner and heal yourself. The research proves that, while you cannot "fix" your partner, you can have a positive impact on their recovery. Whether you suffer from codependency, and whether your partner is already in recovery, How to Love an Addict provides you with proven techniques and strategies to drastically improve your relationship and help get your partner the help he needs-without leaving and while taking care of yourself in the process"-- Provided by publisher

Are you a Disappearing Woman? "Beverly Engel has identified a widespread problem and provided women with wise guidelines for bursting through it. She writes with compassion and insight. If you think you are a Disappearing Woman, you will drink in this book as if it were a health-giving elixir.

This prescriptive book by an internationally renowned therapist shows emotionally abused people how to help themselves. It also shows emotionally abusive people how to stop abusing. It helps people in emotionally abusive relationships determine whether their relationship is worth saving or not.

Focusing on the crucial topic of sexual health for children, this guide offers parents practical strategies for initiating sex education and fostering a positive body image. It emphasizes teaching values in a way that minimizes rebellion and includes accessible advice tailored for readers. Additionally, the book provides recommended reading and resources to assist parents in finding further support.

Christopher Kennedy illuminates how geography, technology, and especially the infrastructure of urban economies allow cities to develop and thrive.

Despite our seemingly tolerant, nonjudgmental society, sexual concerns are more widespread than ever before. Not only must we address the AIDS epidemic and other sexually transmitted diseases, but unrealistic expectations about body image, performance, and ability plague us as well. Add low self-esteem and it becomes impossible to enjoy the intimacy and exhilaration that come from healthy sexual relations with another human being. Renowned psychotherapist! Beverly Engel understand the powerful, debilitating effects of low self-esteem and provides insight into its causes, from unspoken negative messages about sex we received as children, to traumatic first sexual encounters, to sexual abuse. With both authority and compassion, she helps you gain confidence, enjoyment, and pleasure in your life. Here are stories form! ordinary people from all walks of life, discussing their sexual issues, illuminating the problems that are so universal. here, too, is the solid, positive help they received from Engel, help that has proven successful in her practice time and again.

Healing Your Emotional Self shows readers how to become reunited with their true self, quiet their inner critic, raise their self-esteem, and begin to love their body. It also teaches survivors how to separate emotionally from their parents and provide for themselves what they missed as a child.

Expert guidance in stopping and recovering from abuse In her new book, renowned psychotherapist Beverly Engel returns to the topic that made her famous-abuse and recovery from abuse. Engel argues that the primary way survivors can avoid abusing others the way they were abused is to work on their own recovery.