Intimacy

Introduction -- Intimacy and feeling -- Dialectics -- Limitations of dialectics -- Note on terminology -- 1 The Gift -- Initiation -- Appeal and delay -- Absenting -- A measured gift: Lysias's speech -- 2 Touching -- Touching as shared experience -- Proportion -- The myth of the inmost touch -- The wound -- 3 The Heartbeat -- Systole and diastole -- Indifference and longing -- 4 The Between -- God and the space between -- The rupture -- Accessibility -- 5 The Fetish -- The interest -- The fetishized body -- The promise -- 6 Embedding -- The secret -- The third -- The neutralized third: Gossip -- The generalized third: Irony -- Fraudulence -- 7 Conflict -- The dismissal -- The dispute -- Violence -- Withdrawal -- Debate -- 8 The Mêlée -- Consumption, destruction and waste -- Laughter -- Frenzy -- Millenarianism -- 9 The Future -- The test -- The commitment -- Planning -- Identification -- Anticipatory mourning -- 10 Mourning -- Gathering and retraction -- Haunting -- Singularity.