Being There

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In this thought-provoking book, veteran psychoanalyst Erica Komisar presents a compelling argument about the critical role a mother's emotional and physical presence plays in a child's early development. Particularly during the first three years, this presence significantly enhances the likelihood of a child growing up emotionally healthy, secure, and resilient. Conversely, when this essential support is absent, children face increased risks for various social, emotional, and developmental challenges, both short-term and long-term. With a compassionate approach, the book addresses the emotional well-being of both children and mothers, offering guidance for parents on fostering healthy development. Drawing from over two decades of clinical experience, established psychoanalytic theory, and the latest neurobiological research on caregiving and attachment, it covers essential topics such as: establishing emotional connections with young children, regardless of career demands; selecting and training quality childcare; easing transitions for infants and toddlers; debunking myths like "Babies are resilient"; and addressing postpartum depression. It also argues for the inadequacy of three months of maternity leave, empowering parents to prioritize their family's emotional needs during these formative years.