Ramani S. Durvasula, Ph.D Books

How do you know if you are in a relationship with a narcissist—and what can you do about it? Narcissism is a modern epidemic—and it’s spreading rapidly. Narcissists tend to be pretty on the outside, but empty on the inside. While they are often successful, they are also controlling, manipulative, entitled, vain, and they have no empathy. If your significant other can be charismatic and charming one moment and leave you feeling disappointed, unsettled, and doubting yourself the next, you may be involved with a narcissist. This dangerous relationship can slowly ruin your sense of well-being and ultimately your psychological health. Sometimes leaving is the healthiest option. But sometimes it doesn’t feel like an option, and you may have powerful reasons for staying—for your children, financial security, religious beliefs, or simply because you are in love. In Should I Stay or Should I Go? Dr. Ramani Durvasula gives you the tools to help you stop making the same mistakes. It shows you what to watch for and provides guidance on managing difficult situations. This honest survival manual is based on the real terrain of pathological narcissism and it provides a realistic roadmap of how to navigate this landscape and reclaim your true self, find healing and live an authentic and empowered life. Whether you stay—or go.

It's time to reclaim our lives from a world dominated by narcissism, entitlement, and toxic relationships. The phrase "Don't You Know Who I Am?" epitomizes the modern narcissist and reflects a troubling cultural trend. While health campaigns focus on avoiding unhealthy foods and habits, they often overlook the importance of distancing ourselves from toxic individuals. The health benefits of eliminating such people can significantly enhance both physical and mental well-being. We must become vigilant gatekeepers of our minds, bodies, and souls. Narcissism and incivility have become normalized and even rewarded, stemming from deep-rooted insecurities at both personal and societal levels. Paradoxically, we often celebrate these negative traits through social media and consumer culture, with their prevalence evident in leaders across various sectors. Few lives remain untouched by narcissists, whose influence breeds self-doubt, anxiety, and a persistent feeling of inadequacy, making it challenging to establish boundaries. The false hope of change can lead to prolonged cycles of disappointment. A wake-up call is necessary; we must confront the rising tide of narcissism and take back control of our lives.