You Are Not the Man You Are Supposed to Be

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In this candid and often humorous exploration, Martin Robinson, a magazine journalist and founder of a men's media site, embarks on a journey through the complexities of modern masculinity. He engages with mental health groups, visits prisons, and converses with sex activists, evolutionary psychologists, and musicians. His experiences include working out with Special Forces, witnessing cage fights, undergoing a drag makeover, and participating in an 'intimacy jam,' all aimed at uncovering the layers of contemporary manhood. This journey leads to moments of vulnerability, as he reflects on critical issues such as violence, suicide, and toxic masculinity. Martin investigates how men can redefine themselves beyond traditional stereotypes and adapt to societal changes, including the Digital Age, evolving gender relations, and the impacts of a global pandemic. The book features interviews with notable figures like Jason Fox, Jason Williamson, Professor Green, Poorna Bell, Thomas Page McBee, Derek Owusu, and Olympic boxer Luke Campbell MBE. It paints a picture of men grappling with their identities in a rapidly changing world, ultimately seeking new, empowering paths forward.