Friendship & Other Essays

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In this excerpt, the author reflects on the relationship between affection and intellectual output. When writing to a friend, thoughts flow freely, unlike when one sits down to write formally. The presence of a stranger can evoke a mix of excitement and anxiety within a household, prompting preparations and a desire to present oneself well. The anticipation of a commended stranger brings forth a desire to engage in meaningful conversation, leading to a heightened sense of creativity and eloquence. In their presence, individuals often feel inspired to express deeper thoughts and share rich experiences, surprising those around them with their newfound abilities. However, this dynamic shifts once the stranger reveals their own biases and shortcomings. The moment they intrude with their perspectives, the magic dissipates, and the conversation loses its spark. The stranger is no longer an idealized figure but becomes familiar, bringing along the mundane realities of ignorance and misunderstanding. This exploration underscores the delicate balance between admiration and the vulnerability of genuine connection.