Life After Losses: A Memoir of Self-Healing

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Real loss occurs when you love someone more than you love yourself. And with losing a significant other, you lose a part of yourself. After the fact, you feel existentially vacuous, marked by emotional and mental numbness. And, after that, the weight of your suffering begins to get apparent and intolerable. Can you ever rationalize grief through this overbearing sense of losing a significant other? You can't. However, you can learn to deal with it, over time. How does someone pick up the pieces after losing their love and go on to find love again? And what happens when their second love also dies? James LaVeck shares his deeply personal experience in losing his soulmate and husband, Bob, after seven years together. After several years and with the great struggle of getting back to himself, he fell in love again with his second husband, coincidentally also named Bob, and lost him too. This time, with two young children. In this poised narrative, Jim shares the human experience, and practical advice, of coming to terms with reality and learning to rediscover oneself through the unimaginable suffering, not once, but twice. He shares his honest journey through grief toward recovery, and how he made the conscious decision to model grieving behavior to his children. He hopes that, by sharing his experiences, others in similar situations can resonate with and find inspiration in the messages of hope, courage, and faith.